There is a poem by Hafiz titled "It Happens All The Time In Heaven" in which he makes mention of spouses turning to one another and asking how they can better love each other. This is one of the most easy (and yet for many people) frightening ways of learning how better to serve and support one another in relationship. As many marriage counselors, Cary NC to California will tell you, learning how to better love each other is not only helpful in relating to one another, it is essential for nurturing a connection that will only grow stronger over time. A marriage should be built to last, and that sometimes means being able to ask the scary questions- not scary because the answer will be demanding, but scary because it means accepting the effects of one's own actions- and taking pleasure in hearing the response.